Filed under: LOVE, Relationships, Single life | Tags: sage, new man, romance, relationship, The One, lesson
The Sage and I parted company this morning after a wonderful weekend together.
I feel a little lost without him beside me now, knowing that I won’t see him for weeks or months. The distance between us, and our clashing schedules, are the only two things that prevented our weekend from being perfect.
I described him in the last post as a friend who has the potential to be much more than that. Things are the same now - there’s still potential, but I don’t think it will be realised anytime soon. We talked, a lot, about the feelings we have for each other. It was wonderful to hear my own thoughts being spoken from his lips – times we’ve shared and memories we have that mean a lot to us both.
A friend of mine told me years ago that he believed everything in life came down to timing. I agree. If The Sage and I were in another place, at another time, this would be the start of a relationship. But we’re here, and it’s simply the continuation of an exceptional friendship. Neither of us can know if it will ever develop beyond that, and we’ve both accepted it for what it is.
There have been a few amazing men in my life over the last few years, and quite a few similar situations. I think it’s important not to dwell on the ‘could haves’ – relationships that never had the chance to develop due to the constraints of time or distance. Instead, I embrace the fact that there isn’t just One. There are Many.
Filed under: LOVE, Relationships, Single life | Tags: weekend, lingerie, worries, new man, simple life
After rereading yesterday’s post, those are the words that stood out. ‘Just Be.’ Why? Because I’ve spent all day tying myself up in knots about our weekend together!
Tomorrow is the beginning. I’m meeting him a couple of hours from here, staying in his place tomorrow night, and catching a very early plane with him on Friday morning. Yeah, sounds great. Good plan.
It’s all the unplanned things that are causing stress today. I don’t want to look like I’m trying too hard – I’m going to be myself, dress in clothes I’m comfortable in, drink in the afternoon and generally kick back for the few days. But… I don’t want to look like I’m not willing to make an effort either!
The biggest concern? Underwear. Lingerie, if you will. WHAT is the correct attire for a weekend away with a man who is really just a friend but has the potential to be something more?! I don’t want to overdo it, but I’m equally as reluctant to underdo it.
I also volunteered to book accommodation. He has enough to organise, and I’d spotted somewhere that seemed perfect. That was easy too, until I had to choose between a double and a twin room! Because we’ve shared beds in the past, a double is the obvious choice. But I’ve thought about it so much I’ve managed to confuse myself…
So, tomorrow, I’m going to relax. The aim? To get my thoughts and worries the hell out of my way so I can have some fun this weekend. Life really is quite simple, when you let it be.
